... and turn a vicious circle into a virtuous circle.
Post published by David D. Nowell Ph.D. on Feb 21, 2015 in Intrinsic Motivation and Magical Unicorns
The term vicious circle
is used to describe a complex chain of events that reinforce themselves
through a feedback loop. The phrase is typically used to describe the
ways in which a cycle of events just gets worse and worse. On the other
hand, a virtuous circle is a similar chain of events in which things actually improve.
I like the idea of a vicious virtuous circle, the idea that we can take bold steps to make things better—viciously better—than they are now. When I work with clients or their parents around the theme of nonmedical treatment options for ADHD, I emphasize the crucial roles of sleep and nutrition, as well as physical exercise, mastery of a time-management system, and maximal use of formal and informal support systems. Not infrequently, clients will tell me they are not ready to make all of these changes at once. They might be open to the idea of getting to the gym, but not yet ready to make real changes in their nutrition. Or maybe they are willing to get to bed at a reasonable hour but are resistant to the idea of using calendars and to-do lists.
And the great thing about that resistance is this: Anywhere you jump in the vicious virtuous circle is okay! Each of these crucial practices reinforces the others.
For example, when we are well rested we have a greater well of willpower from which to draw when sticking with a nutritional program. So sleep supports nutrition. Likewise, the regular practice of using a calendar allows us to build in time for a workout. We’re less likely to miss the gym when we treat it as an appointment. So time management systems support exercise.
What about you? How could you take advantage of the vicious virtuous circle? Which of these practices do you already pursue—good sleep hygiene, careful use of a time-management system, a program of physical exercise, optimal nutrition, or an excellent (formal or informal) support system? And which of these practices needs work right now in your life?
Don’t answer this next question with your head. Just allow your answer to show up for you in your guts or your intuition:
I like the idea of a vicious virtuous circle, the idea that we can take bold steps to make things better—viciously better—than they are now. When I work with clients or their parents around the theme of nonmedical treatment options for ADHD, I emphasize the crucial roles of sleep and nutrition, as well as physical exercise, mastery of a time-management system, and maximal use of formal and informal support systems. Not infrequently, clients will tell me they are not ready to make all of these changes at once. They might be open to the idea of getting to the gym, but not yet ready to make real changes in their nutrition. Or maybe they are willing to get to bed at a reasonable hour but are resistant to the idea of using calendars and to-do lists.
And the great thing about that resistance is this: Anywhere you jump in the vicious virtuous circle is okay! Each of these crucial practices reinforces the others.
For example, when we are well rested we have a greater well of willpower from which to draw when sticking with a nutritional program. So sleep supports nutrition. Likewise, the regular practice of using a calendar allows us to build in time for a workout. We’re less likely to miss the gym when we treat it as an appointment. So time management systems support exercise.
What about you? How could you take advantage of the vicious virtuous circle? Which of these practices do you already pursue—good sleep hygiene, careful use of a time-management system, a program of physical exercise, optimal nutrition, or an excellent (formal or informal) support system? And which of these practices needs work right now in your life?
Don’t answer this next question with your head. Just allow your answer to show up for you in your guts or your intuition:
What is the one change that would make the biggest difference in your life right now?What is the first easiest step you can take towards making that change? Who’s doing a really good job of that right now? How soon could you take him or her to coffee or shoot them an email to learn more about how they do it and make it look so easy? And for this important change that you’re considering, who in your life would be most supportive? Who would think it’s a great idea, and how exactly would they support you?
