Your name is fragile

通常在乘搭航班时，打包箱子航运寄舱时，都会要求工作人员在箱子外面贴上’易碎的物品’或’小心轻放’标签。

虽然如此，还是常常到家打开箱子时发现东西破损了。

其实最脆弱的是人。

脆弱到不知道下一分钟的事。

本来健健康康的一个人，会跑会跳，一生病就全身乏力的躺在那里。

这还不包括人算不如天算天灾人祸。

人的生命就是这样。

所以从来不要自傲自己的健康强壮。

有健康强壮的身体，我们应该感恩。

因为人你的名字其实叫做“FRAGILE”。

今天天气哈哈哈

办公室楼下是卖冷藏食品。

公司里年过半百的同事童心未泯爱吃冰淇淋。

总会买几条大家一起分享。

昨天下大雨，空气寒冷。

今天天气晴朗，在坐位上享受包着巧克力的的香草冰淇淋。

话着还是很快活的。

虽然也会遇到情绪低潮时，给自己多一点点时间慢慢的调适。

总会从阴霾走出来。

前几个星期因为焦虑，吃东西全无胃口。

当下好害怕自己会不会得了厌食症。

那时舌头吃任何食物都觉的没有味道。

逼自己三餐一定要吃。

结果吃一点点就觉得腹胀。

现在胃口回来了，觉得食物好美味。

天气有晴有雨，大概生活也是这样有高有底吧。

重要的是从来不要放弃，即便在那一刻你痛苦到了极点。

记住一切都会过去。

时间不会永远停留在你最痛苦的时候。

8 Scientifically Backed Ways to Reduce nervous

8 Scientifically Backed Ways to Reduce Anxiety

It is hard to escape those moments in life when you are feeling incredibly nervous. Even if we plan ahead and rehearse, our body’s reaction to being nervous can flare up in very uncomfortable physiological ways. We get that rush of adrenaline and our stomach feels like it’s turning upside down. We begin to sweat, our cheeks flush, and some of us even develop a nervous tic—bouncing knee, twitchy foot, nail biting, blinking too rapidly, or speaking too quickly. This fight-or-flight reaction is perfectly normal, although unsettling and, at times, quite embarrassing.
Wouldn’t it be great to be able to calm yourself down enough making it possible for you to get through any situation no matter how nervous you become?

Here are some great ways to hide your nervous behavior so you can tackle any nerve-racking event in your life.

1. Breathe

Being nervous can disrupt normal breathing. Your breathing can become shallow and irregular. Is it any wonder we often feel faint when nervous? Take a few deep breaths and find your normal breathing pattern—that deep breath will help you relax too.

2. Don’t Admit It

One of the worst things you can do is admit you are nervous. This brings the focus fully on you and all those horribly natural things that are happening to your body when nervous.

3. Speak Slowly

When we are nervous, we often speak much too quickly. Be conscious of this and make a point of speaking slowly. Even if it sounds too slow to you, chances are those who are listening will think it’s just right. Much better to leave a meeting with your message delivered clearly instead of people scratching their heads saying, “What did he just say?”

4. Relax Your Body

Do a quick body check and purposefully try to relax and calm your body’s nervous reactions—relax your panicked, tightened muscles. Sit up straight, but in a relaxed way, not too rigid. Make sure your feet and hands are calm and relaxed—no bouncing, tapping, or wringing allowed. Relax the muscles in your face so you’re not frowning or looking worried.

5. Maintain Eye Contact

You are screaming, “I’m nervous” when you don’t maintain consistent eye contact nervously glancing around the room instead. Maintain eye contact without robotically staring—it’s okay to look away occasionally to gather your thoughts.

6. Ask a Question

If you are feeling nervous and having a hard time getting your thoughts out, ask a question—the attention is all of a sudden on others, not you. This will give you time to take a deep breath, calm down, and collect your thoughts so you can articulate better what you are trying to say.

7. Be Yourself

Remind yourself that you are fine just the way you are and take the focus off everything going perfectly. Go into situations knowing that you might make a mistake, and that’s OK—you’re human just like everyone else in the world. Don’t force a smile or tell a corny joke. Just let conversations happen naturally and smile or tell that joke when or if it’s appropriate.

8. Still Struggling?

Tried everything and you are still struggling to hide your nervousness? According to Alison Wood Brooks at Harvard Business School, you should turn your nervousness into excitement. Instead of being nervous and saying you’re nervous, be excited and say you’re excited. She observed a fake it until you make it effect on a study group who tried to hide their nervousness by saying that they were excited instead and, sure enough, this group outperformed the group that admitted they were nervous.
She believes that by channeling our nervous feelings into excitement, we tend to focus on positive outcomes instead of all the things that could potentially go wrong when we’re nervous—definitely worth a try!

8 Scientifically Backed Ways to Reduce Anxiety

It’s tempting to reach for that prescription bottle when anxiety’s crippling symptoms (uneasiness, increased heart rate, difficulty breathing, sweating, and more) set in, but a recent study, the findings of which were published in The Lancet Psychiatry, suggests that talk therapy can actually be a more successful form of treatment—and have longer lasting effects. That’s good news for the more than 40 million American adults who suffer from anxiety disorders

While people with persistent, uncomfortable symptoms of anxiety should always consult a doctor, it turns out there are plenty of other scientifically-proven and totally natural ways to ease symptoms of anxiety. We’ve rounded up a few:

1. Get enough sleep. A 2013 study published in The Journal of Neuroscience supports the idea that sleep-deprivation can have serious health consequences, including ratcheting up anxiety levels. While there’s no “magic” number when it comes to sleep, the average person should aim to get about seven to eight hours. 

2. Grin and bear it—literally. According to a 2012 study from the University of Kansas, the old adage is rooted in truth: Smiling during stressful situations can help ease anxiety, even if you don’t feel happy.

3. Say “no” to sweets. While it might be tempting to quell symptoms with comfort foods, like candy and carbohydrates, research from the Western Human Nutrition Research Center warns against it. Indulging may provide temporary respite, but satisfying sugar cravings will likely increase anxiety in the long run.

4. Breathe properly. Simple breathing exercises twice a day can alleviate feelings of panic associated with anxiety, suggests a 2010 study from Southern Methodist University. Contrary to popular belief, deep breaths can actually worsen hyperventilation. Instead, try breathing slower and more shallowly.

5. Meditate. Setting aside time—even a few minutes!—for mindful meditation has positive effects on your psyche, suggests research from Johns Hopkins University. And another survey from NPR, the Robert Woord Johnson Foundation, and the Harvard School of Public Health showed similar findings, with 85 percent of respondents reporting meditation and prayer helped them manage stress. See how to meditate without anyone even knowing what you’re doing.

6. Exercise. It may be hard to find the energy to hop on the treadmill when you’re feeling blue, but research shows that regular exercise is associated with lower neuroticism, anxiety, and depression.

7. Avoid caffeine. Highly caffeinated drinks—like coffee—can brew panic in people who are predisposed to anxiety, according to a study from the University of Michigan.

10 Ways to Cope With Anxiety

You’ve been in bed for an hour now and you still can’t get to sleep. Maybe you’re thinking about your job or your 401(k) or health insurance. Perhaps some problem with your kids has your mind spinning on its late-night hamster wheel of worry. Whatever the issue, you can’t get it out of your head, so you try to solve it then and there. Before you know it, another hour has passed. Now you start fretting about the fact that you can’t get to sleep. “I’ll be a wreck tomorrow,” you tell yourself. “I’ve got to sleep now.” Doesn’t do the trick though, does it?

We’ve all been there. But the good news is, there is something you can do to help―something more effective than the usual advice to “be positive” or just “stop thinking so much.” The latest research on anxiety suggests innovative, even odd, techniques for coping successfully with recurrent worries. I’ve seen these work for hundreds of patients. In fact, I’ve found that most people can get a grip on things if they take a few minutes to develop a different relationship with their thoughts and feelings. Here are 10 approaches to try.

1. Repeat your worry until you’re bored silly. If you had a fear of elevators, you’d get rid of it if you rode in one a thousand times in a row. At first, you would be very anxious, then less so, and eventually it would have no effect (except to make you sick of riding in an elevator). So take the troublesome thought that’s nagging at you and say it over and over, silently, slowly, for 20 minutes. It’s hard to keep your mind on a worry if you repeat it that many times. I call this the “boredom cure” for obvious reasons, but it sure beats feeling overwhelmed by anxiety.

2. Make it worse. When you try too hard to control your anxieties, you only heighten them. Instead, exaggerate them and see what happens. For instance, if you fear that your mind will go blank during a presentation, fake it intentionally in the middle of your next one. Say, “Gee, what was I just saying?” Notice how this makes no difference. It’s nothing to worry about, right? I did this at a lecture once and no one raised an eyebrow. (Perhaps they weren’t listening anyway!)

3. Don’t fight the craziness. You may occasionally have thoughts that lead you to think you’ll do something terrible (“I’m attracted to him. Does that mean I’ll have an affair?”) or that you’re going insane (a client of mine who is an attorney kept imagining herself screaming in court). Remember―our minds are creative. Little synapses are firing away at random, and every now and then a “crazy” thought jumps out. Everyone has them. Instead of judging yours, describe it to yourself like it’s a curious object on a shelf and move on.

4. Recognize false alarms. That fear of your house burning down because you left the iron on has never come true. That rapid heart beat doesn’t mean you’re having a heart attack; it’s your body’s natural response to arousal. Many thoughts and sensations that we interpret as cues for concern―even panic―are just background noise. Think of each of them as a fire engine going to another place. You’ve noticed them; now let them pass by.

5. Turn your anxiety into a movie. You can let go of a worry by disconnecting yourself from it. One way is to imagine that your anxious thoughts are a show. Maybe they’re a little guy in a funny hat who tap dances and sings out your worry while you sit in the audience, eating popcorn, a calm observer.

6. Set aside worry time. All too often we take a “Crackberry” approach to our worries: They show up unannounced, like constantly dinging e-mails, and we stop everything to address them―even if we should be doing something else. But what if you don’t respond right away? Try setting aside 20 minutes every day―let’s say at 4:30 p.m.―just for your worries. If you are fretting at 10 a.m., jot down the reason and resolve to think it through later. By the time 4:30 comes around, many of your troubles won’t even matter anymore. And you will have spent almost an entire day anxiety-free.

7. Take your hand off the horn. You constantly check the weather before a big outdoor event. You replay that clumsy comment you made, wishing you could take it back. And, yes, you honk your horn in traffic. When you desperately try to take command of things that can’t be controlled, you’re like the swimmer who panics and slaps at the water, screaming. It gets you nowhere. Instead, imagine that you are floating along on the water with your arms spread out, looking up to the sky. It’s a paradox, but when you surrender to the moment, you actually feel far more in control.

8. Breathe it out. You may notice that when your body is tense, you hold your breath. Focusing on breathing is a common but effective technique for calming the nerves. Where is your breath now, and where is your mind? Bring them together. Listen to the movement of your breath. Does your mind wander somewhere else? Call it back. Concentrate only on breathing in and out, beginning and ending, breath to breath, moment to moment.

9. Make peace with time. When you’re a worrier, everything can feel like an emergency. But notice this about all your anxious arousal: It’s temporary. Every feeling of panic comes to an end, every concern eventually wears itself out, every so-called emergency seems to evaporate. Ask yourself, “How will I feel about this in a week or a month?” This one, too, really will pass.

10. Don’t let your worries stop you from living your life. Many of them will turn out to be false, and the consequences of your anxiety―less sleep, a rapid pulse, a little embarrassment―are just inconveniences when it comes down to it. What can you still do even if you feel anxious? Almost anything.

 http://www.realsimple.com/health/mind-mood/emotional-health/ten-ways-to-cope-with-anxiety

今天又是下大雨

年尾的时候，这里天天下雨，难得一见晴天。

尤其到了下午，黑天暗地，然后就开始下起倾盆大雨。

到处湿溜溜的。

都不能到户外走走。

连运动都得在家里做。

空气开始转凉，在空调的办公室，还得穿上外套。

一些抵抗力不强的人开始咳嗽伤风。

这时候最好有一碗热汤来暖暖身子。

可惜我不喝咖啡或茶。

每当看到人在冷天时手里捧着一杯咖啡，在陶醉的喝一口，就好象快乐似神仙的那种享受，都好羡慕。

奈何因着体质关系，不能接触咖啡因。

没有咖啡和茶的人生，也好象失了点味道。

生活

至少现在比较缓和了。

没有那种身陷其间无法自拔的感受。

那种在网罗里，不能有思考的感觉。

有着超常的敏感度。

大白天都不觉得热。

在冷气房里还得穿外套。

一点点感受都会因为太敏感，而被放大放大。

神经被绷的好紧。

食不下咽。

原来生活如常是最幸福的一件事。

吃得下睡得下，真得感恩。

真正讓人恢復精神的“休息模式”

為甚麼你睡了11個小時仍然覺得疲累？為甚麼你花了好幾千去島國度假並沒有增加生活的熱情？說去KTV、去夜店、去遊樂園就能忘掉不快，更帶勁地開始新的一天，但是盡興歸來心裡只剩空虛？

我們真的明白休息的含義嗎？我們休息對了嗎？你理解的休息是甚麼？睡一個飽覺？一陣瘋玩？到KTV釋放飯後的一串飽嗝？

休息的真正含義是恢覆疲勞，放鬆神經，當你重新投入工作與學習的時候覺得又是一個精力充沛的新人。

如果你的休息方式並不能為你帶來這些，那麼，無論這些活動的名字聽起來有多輕鬆，看上去有多High，它都是一種錯誤。拋棄它們，來一場休息革命！

首先，來看看我們對休息有哪些誤解

一、腦力勞動者，補瞌睡對你沒甚麼用

你寫了一天的文案，主持了一天的會議，當一切都結束了，你嘆到：太累了，這一天我要睡個好覺。我們的常識使得我們對疲勞的第一反應就是“去躺躺吧”，但這是一個陷阱。

睡眠的確是一種有效的休息方式，但它主要對睡眠不足或體力勞動者適用。對體力勞動者來說，“疲 勞”主要是由體內產生大量酸性物質引起，如果十分疲勞，應採取靜的休息方式。通過睡覺，可以把失去的能量補充回來，把堆積的廢物排除出去。如果不是很累， 也可以在床上先躺一躺，閉目靜息，讓全身肌肉和神經完全放鬆後，再起來活動活動。

但如果你是坐辦公室的，大腦皮層極度興奮，而身體卻處於低興奮狀態，對待這種疲勞，睡眠能起到 的作用不大，（除非你是熬夜加班，連正常睡眠時間都達不到）因為你需要的不是通過“靜止”恢覆體能，而是要找個事兒把神經放鬆下來。這樣你可以理解為甚麼 你週末兩天不出門依舊無精打采，而只需下班後遊泳半小時就神采奕奕。

二、不必停下來，只是換一下

既然睡覺不能幫助我們休息大腦，那甚麼辦法才可以？答案是不停止活動，而只是改變活動的內容。大腦皮質的一百多億神經細胞，功能都不一樣，它們以不同的方式排列組合成各不相同的聯合功能區，這一區域活動，另一區域就休息。

所以，通過改換活動內容，就能使大腦的不同區域得到休息。心理生理學家謝切諾夫做過一個實驗， 為了消除右手的疲勞，他採取兩種方式——一種是讓兩隻手靜止休息，另一種是在右手靜止的同時又讓左手適當活動，然後在疲勞測量器上對右手的握力進行測試。 結果表明，在左手活動的情況下，右手的疲勞消除得更快。這證明變換人的活動內容確實是積極的休息方式。

比如你星期五寫了5個小時的企劃案，最好第二天去給你的盆栽們剪枝而不是睡到太陽曬屁股。還有一點，當你無法選擇由腦力勞動轉入體力勞動時，你不妨在腦力勞動內部轉換。

法國傑出的啟蒙思想家盧梭就講過他的心得：“我本不是一個生來適於研究學問的人，因為我用功的 時間稍長一些就感到疲倦，甚至我不能一連半小時集中精力於一個問題上。但是，我連續研究幾個不同的問題，即使是不間斷，我也能夠輕鬆愉快地一個一個地尋思 下去，這一個問題可以消除另一個問題所帶來的疲勞，用不著休息一下腦筋。於是，我就在我的治學中充份利用我所發現的這一特點，對一些問題交替進行研究。這 樣，即使我整天用功也不覺得疲倦了。”

所以，這天你要是有好幾個問題要處理，最好交替進行，而不要處理完一個再開始的二個，那樣會很快被耗盡。

三、最好的休息，是讓你重燃生活的熱情

我們的疲憊主要來自對現有的一層不變的生活的厭倦。所以最好的休息項目就是那些讓我們重新找到 生活和工作熱情的活動。如果你幹完一件事，能夠幸福地感嘆“明天又是新的一天。”那這件事對你來說就是最好的恢覆熱情，調節情緒的方法。但可惜，我們缺乏 對“休息”的想象力。我們能想出來的休息方法不是癡睡就是傻玩。

以下是一些活動清單，基本思路是以“做”來解決“累”，用積極休息取代消極放縱。當然，最適合你的方法還是要你自己探索。事實上如果你覺得打掃比坐過山車是更好的放鬆，那麼就去吧，別管世界上的其他人都在玩甚麼。

也許你可以：

1. 花兩小時讀一本讓你開懷的漫畫或小說，來代替去唱KTV。

2. 試著放棄在週六晚上去酒吧，10點入睡，然後7點起床，去沒有人的街上走走，或是看看你從來沒有機會看到的早間劇場，你會發現這一天可以和過去的千萬個週末有所不同。

3. 不要再去你已經去過無數次的度假村找樂子了。找一條你從沒去過的街道，把它走完。你會發現這個你感到膩味的城市，你並沒有完全體會到它的妙處。

4. 旅行，而不是換個地方消遣。去一個地方對那個地方本身心存好奇，對自己這趟行程心存美意，感受自己經驗範圍以外的人生樣貌。而不是坐了5小時飛機，只是換個地方打麻將，換個地方遊泳，換個地方打球……

5. 從這個週末起學習一項新的技藝，比如彈電子琴，打鼓……每週末練習1小時以上。

6. 去社交。不要以為它總是令人疲憊的。雖然和看書比起來，它稍有點令人緊張，但也能讓你更興奮，更有認同感。你必須每周有兩三天是和工作圈子和親戚外的人打 交道。它讓你在朝九晚五的機械運行中不至失去活潑的天性。女性朋友們尤為需要走出去和朋友聚會，這些時刻你不再是滿臉寫著“效率”的中性人，而是一個裙裾 飛揚的魅力焦點。

7. 做點困難的事，如果你是精神超級緊張的人。心理學家發現解除神經緊張的方法，是去處理需要神經緊張才能解決的問題。曾經一位精神即將崩潰的總經理找到一位 醫師給出治療建議，結果他得到的處方是去動物園當馴獅師，結果一個月後他完全康復了。所以壓力特別大的時候你可以為自己再找份工作，但不要是和你職業類似 的。比如去孤兒院做義工，或者去一個覆雜的機械工廠從學徒做起，或者做一道超級覆雜的數學題。

往往珍惜生命的人，會不顧任何代價，去求得一個休息。休息十天、半個月，他們回來了，再看呀，是多麼神奇的一種變化！他們簡直是一個新生的人了。生機勃勃，精神飽滿，懷著新的希望，新的計劃，新的生命憧憬，他們己消除疲勞，獲得了從新起航的動力。

花些時間休息，可以使你獲得大量的精力、體力，使你取得從事任何工作，應付各種問題的力量，使你對於生命，能有一個愉快正確的認識，如此真正的休息才可以讓你走更長遠的路。

工作不應該成為生活的全部，工作只是為了更好的生活。我們應該是工作的主人，絕不是工作的奴隸。

星洲網‧2014.09.25

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焦虑

自己里面像过山车，外面却一片风平浪静。

Thought Stopping:
It Makes Worry Worse

If you're bothered by worry, you might have heard about "thought stopping", and hoped it would help you clear your mind of these unwelcome thoughts.
It probably hasn't. That's not your fault. Opposing your worry in this manner doesn't really work very well for most people. In fact, it often makes the problem worse.

The Problem with Thought Stopping

Take a look around you and select a small item in your area. Pick up a cup, an ashtray, a book, a framed photograph, a salt shaker, or something similarly portable.
Put it someplace else in your home. Remove it from the room you occupy, and come back here.
You were able to do that, right?
Think of the object you removed. Picture what it looks like, what it's used for, its color and shape, the materials it's made of, and so on.
Now do some thought stopping. Remove all thoughts of that object from your mind. Don't think of it for three minutes. Say "stop" to yourself if you like, each time you think of that object. Snap a rubber band on your wrist each time you think of the object, as the classic instructions would have you do.
Not so easy, right? And usually very unsuccessful. But this, unfortunately, is what people who struggle with worry and anxiety often do. Even worse, they're often advised to do this!

Don't treat Thoughts like Objects

It's pretty easy to get rid of an object, especially a small one. You remove it from the room, put it somewhere else, and it stays there. Unless it's alive, it won't come back.
But thoughts don't respond like objects. Thoughts respond more like an oppositional two year old. The harder you try to remove a thought from your mind, the more persistently it returns to your attention.
Thought stopping is an example of treating thoughts like objects. It generally doesn't work. It's like tossing a boomerang in an effort to be rid of it. That just makes it come back.

Treat Worry like a Heckler,
not a Mugger

If I face someone trying to hurt me, a mugger or some kind of assailant, I have to try to protect myself, probably by fighting, running away, or shouting for help.
But if I'm giving a lecture somewhere and there's a heckler in the audience, those things won't help. If I get into a fight or an argument with the heckler, I'm just playing the heckler's game, and it will take me away from the purpose of my lecture.
I'd be a lot better off accepting the fact that I had a heckler in the audience, and doing the things that are likely to help the situation. That would probably mean finding ways to work the heckler into my presentation, making some humorous points about the disruption, deliberately calling on the heckler with questions, and so on.
Worry and other forms of unwanted thoughts are like a heckler, rather than a mugger. You'll be better off working with them than against them.

Better Ways to Respond to Worry

Here are a few responses to excessive worry which my patients have found to be helpful.
"I remind myself that I'm prone to worry about future events, that I have a great imagination but no crystal ball, and that there's no need to take the thought seriously."
"I tell myself 'that's just the way I am. I have the worry habit'."
"I write myself a reminder to worry about this subject later, and get involved in some activity, like work or exercise. I rarely come back to it later, because I lose interest."
You can also use worry periods, which I find to be a powerful alternative to struggling against your worries.
But don't even think of thought stopping!
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Generalized Anxiety Disorder

If you have Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD), you're up against the same Anxiety Trick - you experience Discomfort, but respond as if it were Danger - but here, the source of the Discomfort is your own thoughts.
A person with GAD does a great deal of worrying. It isn't so much that you have a particular problem you worry about, because over time you'll worry about lots of different problems. It's more that you have the problem of worrying. Just like Panic Disorder is a fear of fear, Generalized Anxiety Disorder is worry about worry.

Arguing with Your Thoughts...

People with GAD get into a conflictual relationship with their own thoughts. Sometimes, they take the content of their worries very seriously, and fret about it. For instance, you might have the thought, "what if I lose my job?", and spend a lot of time wondering if your boss likes you or not; where you might look for another job; how you could find out if you'll be fired; how your spouse would react; and so on. You'd think about it a lot in an effort to reassure yourself, and find that you just get more worried.

...and Fearing Your Thoughts

Other times, you'd stop thinking about the idea of getting fired, and focus instead on how all this worry might affect you. You would worry that the worry will lead to a stroke, or a nervous breakdown. You'd be worrying about worry.
There are other symptoms of Generalized Anxiety Disorder - aches and pains, restlessness, sleep disturbances - but all these other symptoms seem to be caused by the excessive worrying.

What if...?

There are two words which, much more than any others, signal that you're getting into worries. These words are "what if...?".
People with GAD imagine something bad (what if I get too anxious to work?), regardless of how likely or unlikely it is, and imagine the terrible consequences should this event occur. Then they try to figure out how they could make sure that this bad thing will never ever happen.

How can I be Sure?

People with Generalized Anxiety Disorder want to make very sure that their bad thoughts will never become reality. They want to eliminate all doubt. Since it's impossible to prove, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that something could never happen, this opens the door to worry without end.
If you have GAD, you probably spend a lot of time trying to get your thoughts just the way you want them. You don't want to have any negative thoughts, and if you have any, you want to be able to prove to yourself that they can't possibly happen. You spend so much time and effort trying to get your thoughts cleaned up and arranged the way you want, that you spend less of your time and energy out in the real world.

Change Your Response,
Rather than Your Thoughts

The problem is this. If there was a rock or tree stump on your property, you could remove it, and that would be the end of it. The rock would not return. But if you have a thought in your mind and try to remove it, the very act of trying to remove the thought practically guarantees that you will have the thought again.
This is the problem with thought stopping, and distraction in general. If you tell yourself not to think about dandelions, you'll probably be seeing plenty of them in your mind. The more you try to suppress a thought, the more it tends to return. Objects won't return when you dispose of them, but thoughts will.
Since you can't simply "turn off" thoughts, progress with Generalized Anxiety Disorder (and with worry in general) comes when a person becomes more accepting of his thoughts - the good, the bad, and the unlikely - rather than opposing them. Effective treatment will help you change your relationship with your thoughts. It will help you respond to them as nothing more than symptoms of anxiety,rather than treating them as important signals about your future. One of the best ways to make this change is the use of worry periods.

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