如果老恐龙会说话

上班的日子，每天早晨，猪都会抚摸着老恐龙的方向盘，然后轻声说几句话。

猪一个人这么久，已经养成孤僻不合群的恶习，朋友少之又少。

很多时候，有好多的话不知道该向谁说。

对家人，大多数猪只愿意报喜不报忧。

对比较谈得来的朋友，猪自认还是有所保留为妙。

猪最怕说话时讲：“我跟你讲的，你不要跟别人讲。”

结果还是到处流传。

即迎来了这只老恐龙，猪终于找到了说话的对象。

老恐龙发出大声小声的噪音和着收音机发出的声音，猪大可放心的和老恐龙说话谈心。

旁人最多认为猪是跟着音乐在唱歌。

如果老恐龙会说话，它一定会说：“不怕不怕，猪，我们一起携手迈向灿烂的将来。”

皇帝嘴乞丐命

猪买了所有人都不看好的老恐龙代步。

从驾驶进口车到本土二手车，猪好似降格了。

人由儉入奢易，由奢入儉難。

其实对猪那并不难，进口车本来就不属于猪；猪姐大方借用，让猪藉车沾一点光，做个有钱人。

猪在稍微有点能力时就赶快买进老恐龙，然后归还了进口车，做回真正的自己。

旁人A自己天天也只是用两轮的电单车代步，却对猪的老恐龙哼哼声。

虽然A的儿子有辆大型进口车，可现在也是债务缠身，月月交贷款。

他们都说猪笨，放着好车不用，用老恐龙。

老恐龙噪声不断，前面挡风玻璃又有点刮花了。

猪还是情愿驾着老恐龙上班下班，猪乐的轻松自在。

反观在驾驶进口车时，猪天天战战兢兢，深怕那个不小心碰撞了这里那里的。

猪真的自知肚明，身来是乞丐命，就过着乞丐的生活。

如果长着一张皇帝嘴，真的只有害苦自己。

山珍海味那张口不喜欢？

可当你没有选择时，还是甘于粗茶淡饭吧。

况且粗茶淡饭还是更健康的。

山珍海味和粗茶淡饭反正都是入了口后排出来。

猪情归何处

因为有希望，所以有失望。

还以为猪就像老枯木那样麻木不仁了，怎知猪仍对爱情有满满的憧憬，一触不可收拾。

再看见法国大选人物马克龙和他的爱情故事，更让猪深信爱情。

原来24岁的差距算不得什么。

老态的满面皱纹也不能影响什么。

荡气回肠的爱情故事总叫人迷恋。

可猪情归何处呢？

中年猪

猪老早就步入中年。

只是那时姐姐仍与猪同住，当时大多数生活琐事都由姐姐打理。

猪等于闲人那样，只懂得上班下班运动。

现在姐姐去了M市，猪没法，什么都得自己来，自己动手。

那时上班下班都由同样办工时间的姐姐接送，现在猪自己驾车，即便笨手笨脚，猪老是嫌马路太窄，泊车位太小，其他司机怎么老爱超车。

又觉得怎么这鸟不生蛋的小地方突然多了许多汽车，每次十字路口或转弯路都要等好久。

这样的劳心劳力，就足使猪觉得自己老了下来。

十足中年猪。

常常想做这做那，可是体力却不能应付。

一天上完班，都累极的瘫着不想动。

结果身材走样，那又是中年发福。

猪努力节食，却又常常觉得饿得发昏，手脚无力，所以只得进食。

恶性循环的使然，猪的体重就一直增加，以前有腰围的裙子裤子都紧得难呼吸。

逛商场想买合身的衣服，试来试去，都觉得不好看。

蝴蝶结、大圆裙、窄衫，穿在猪身上总觉得不论不类。

而太正式的衣服裙子穿在猪身上，又叫猪显得老气。

每每都空手而回，猪还庆幸自己省钱。

可是每天早上上班前，猪又得痛苦的挣扎要穿什么好。

看来中年猪越来越明显的难以掩盖了。

4 Easy Ways to Turn Your Fear and Anxiety Into Positive Energy

Do these things to calm yourself and gain control--even when you feel like you have none.

By Jonathan Alpert

Psychotherapist and author of "Be Fearless: Change Your Life in 28 Days"@JonathanAlpert
 he first time I was on national TV I felt my heart pounding as if it were going to burst through my chest. I felt myself sitting in the green room with great anticipation and fear. My muscles were tense and I was breathing heavily. I felt as if I were going into battle. In a way, I suppose I was. I anticipated being attacked and discredited by the host, so naturally my body and mind had to prepare.
I took a few seconds to settle down. I did a quick scan of my body: My pounding heart was likely due to the release of adrenaline, a hormone that prepares the body for action. My dry mouth was due to fluids moving to other parts of my body where they were more needed. I reminded myself that these sensations were normal and my body was doing what it's supposed to do automatically. I then imagined myself lying on a raft in a calm body of water. I was rocking ever so gently with the waves. This helped to relax me. Then I took the sensations that remained and I used them to my advantage. They became the extra focus and energy I needed to really be "on" when it was my turn to talk.
I share this story with you to illustrate that being aware of how your body reacts to fear and anxiety can make a big difference in how you handle it. Think about your body's reaction when you are fearful. What happens? What sensations do you notice and what goes through your mind? Does your heart race? Perhaps you blush and sweat, too? Maybe you even feel the need to run to the bathroom before it's too late.
Think about why your body might be reacting in this way. Could there be any hidden benefit to this reaction -- one you could adapt to and use to your advantage? If you aren't afraid of your fear and anxiety and didn't feel the need to completely eliminate it, would any of it be useful to you? Does the alertness that comes from the fear response help you to think more clearly and quickly? Perhaps the increased heart rate helps to drive yourself forward.

Below are four common physical reactions people have to fear and anxiety and ways to think about them differently:

1. Sweating. The body is preparing to either fight or flee. The sweating helps to cool it down. Re-frame it like this: "Good, my body is ready for this sporting event called life! It will keep me cool under pressure."
2. Pounding heart. The body releases the hormone epinephrine into the bloodstream when it perceives a threat. This in turn increases the heart rate so that more blood gets to parts of the body that may need it to act in the face of fear. Re-frame it like this: I can feel comfortable knowing that my defense against stress is functioning well, including my ability to get a surge of strength and energy.
3. Shortness of breath. The nerves around the rib cage and torso are on high alert, causing you to feel heaviness on your chest. Re-frame it like this: My body is getting the oxygen it needs. The increased breath is going to fuel my muscles and brain with oxygenated blood so I will think more clearly and react more quickly.
4. Dry throat. Fluids are diverted from nonessential areas of the body such as the mouth. This leads to dryness and difficulty talking. Re-frame it like this: Parts of my body that really need fluids will now get them so that they function effectively under stress. I can always take a sip of water to moisten my throat.

Next time you feel anxious and as though you have no control over your body's reaction, think again. Why might your body be reacting the way it is? Think about the edge this reaction gives you. In the face of fear, will you retreat or will you thrive?

今天猪要嫁给你

每一个人都不看好老恐龙。

对老恐龙没有赞，只有贬。

猪才刚刚说服自己，去爱老恐龙。

又来四面的声音动摇猪。

猪从进口车降低到驾老恐龙，就好象富家女嫁给穷小子；从大房子搬到廉价屋，从四房二厅住进两房一厅的袖珍屋。

之前驾进口车都没有听到什么闲言闲语。

现在驾老恐龙，人人仿佛看见一朵鲜花插在牛粪上。

当下都会睁大眼睛，微张着口，一脸惊讶相。

都说猪不驾进口车，至少也应该驾辆本地出产的新车。

猪真的哑口吃黄连有口说不出，也只能算了。

什么都不说，其实就是对闲言闲语最好的答复。

猪也认定了，就嫁鸡随鸡吧。

老恐龙就似猪的白马王子，会把猪自淤泥救拔出来。

猪也真心希望这只老恐龙一定要争气，会带给猪很多很多的幸福和快乐，好让所有不看好的人大跌眼镜。

爱上老恐龙

即便你年纪轻轻，却老态毕露，而且一直发出噪音，猪深思熟虑后还是打算学习拥抱你。

猪也知道猪头有多大就该戴多大的帽子。

太大的帽子会遮住猪的眼睛。

所以猪还是想和你和平共处。

猪想若是猪加倍的珍惜你，你也应该会加倍的回报猪吧？

虽然道德沉沦，这样的原则还是不变吧？

猪第一次驾驶你这老恐龙时确实被你的响声给惊吓了；可第二次再用时，已经不再那样的嫌你吵了。

猪是在慢慢的习惯中。

因为你是这只老穷猪拥有的第一辆代步车。

而老穷猪配对老恐龙，相信也将会是最佳拍档。

老穷猪会努力多赚钱，而老恐龙你也要加油给猪打气，不要三天两头的闹情绪。

等够钱了，猪会给你来个大翻修，让你重现神气。

那时老穷猪和老恐龙要携手健步如飞的奔驰在马路上。

咱们来击掌吧。Yeah, give me a five.

老穷猪加油！

老恐龙加油！

我们一起共创美好的未来。

老恐龙

猪用了身边的储蓄买了一架二手本地普通傻瓜。

车龄其实并不大，但所发出的声音就似一只老恐龙。

之前猪借用姐姐的进口车上班下班差不多一年了。

已经习惯了它那高贵的身份，在马路上无噪音，即便在凹凸不平的马路上。

今天早上第一次驾驶老恐龙上班，突然难以接受身份的更变。

只觉得老恐龙似乎病恹恹的。

这老恐龙就像摩登原始人卡通里面的车。

外表看是好新，一开启，就发出好大的声音。

一路来也是噪音不断，开动的收音机的声量都被噪音掩盖了。

可是阿可是，这老恐龙一样把猪送到办公室。

如果只看汽车的用途，为着载送，那老恐龙也同样尽职。

可是现代人个个都戴了有色眼镜，汽车何止只是单单为着交通。

它如今也代表了一个人的身份地位。

好多年前的某一天，姐姐也同样驾着本地高龄汽车。

当时姐姐站在泊车位，眼睁睁的看着对面的大辆四驱车轻吻了她汽车的屁股。

因为太突然，姐姐张着口，却叫不出声。

虽然只是后面黑胶的保险杠刮了一点点。

四驱车的驾驶员下车看了下自己的车，因为是进口车，比较坚硬，什么痕迹都没。

然后他再转过来看猪姐的车，他说：“才刮了一点点，不要紧啦，反正也是老爷车了。”

就拍拍屁股走了。

原来驾旧车可以这样的被人看低，反正旧嘛，这里被刮，那里被刮，再加一横，也无所谓。

谁有头发还要秃头呢？

猪也想驾着进口发亮的车代步。

但荷包里银两有限，只能屈就于低下的选择：  老恐龙。

猪真的是双手合十，希望这老恐龙会忠心于猪。

黑白，和许多灰

很多事真的不是说对就是对，错就是错。

就像颜色，黑与白之间，还有许多灰色。

A有恩于猪，A要求猪陪他走一里路，可猪脚痛。

猪忍痛陪他走完一里路，然后只能自己卧床疗伤。

B曾经帮助过猪，B要求猪说一句善意的谎言。

猪说了，虽然没有伤害他人，可猪心里就是留下一疙瘩。

顺得哥来失嫂意就是这样。

C对猪恩重如山，C叫猪把白色说成灰色，虽然有反颜色的原则，但却也无伤大雅。

白色从远处看也就是有点像非常浅的灰色；还有白衣穿久了和洗久了，也就是淡灰色。

白色加一小滴黑色也就是浅浅的灰，看起来也像白。

猪不说灰，猪的良心会控告。

可是颜色又明明是白色。

猪不说白，猪的良心同样也会控告。

可怜的猪只能在黑白灰之间慢慢说服自己。

猪还嫁得出吗？

高龄的猪，虽然明知道结婚的机率极低，还是对它抱着些些的期望。

几时猪也能出嫁呢？

一只单身猪再怎么爱自己，都还是觉得缺了什么的。

一个人的幸福和两个人的幸福真的不一样。

10 Habits of the Most Confident People

Confidence breeds success. Are you as confident (and successful) as you can be?

By Andrew Thomas

Founder, Skybell Video Doorbell@apthomas

 

When I look back on my 20s, I see two different versions of myself. The first five years were dominated by feelings of insecurity and anxiety. I was living a life I did not want, and I wasn't confident enough to stop it. Then, in the second half of my 20s, I learned to embrace my purpose and began living the life I wanted -- the life of an entrepreneur. One thing is clear: The success I've experienced while launching and growing SkyBell would not have been possible with my old mindset.
Now at age 32, I can clearly see my shift from a negative mindset to a success mindset was caused by my developing more confidence. When you feel confident, the whole world seems to belong to you. You suddenly surround yourself with other successful and confident people, and both opportunities and success come your way with ease.
Here are 10 ways you can develop the mindset shared by the most confident people.

1. Define your purpose.

It's hard to be confident in what you're doing if you're not sure why you're doing it. What is your purpose in work and in life? Once you identify your "why," you'll be more confident because you'll be coming from a place of purpose.

2. Avoid comparing yourself with others.

In almost every case, when you compare yourself with someone else, it takes the form of negative self-talk about how you're not good enough. Doing this weakens self-confidence. The only person you need to compare yourself with is the version of yourself that you want to become. That's it.

3. Focus on solutions.

There will always be challenges. But focusing solely on a problem is a self-defeating practice. Instead, acknowledge that problems will arise, and when they do, focus on finding solutions as a strong leader. The more problems you overcome, the more confidence you'll build and the easier it will be to find solutions.

4. Play to your strengths.

Sometimes we spend more time making up for our perceived weaknesses than we do honoring our strengths. While I certainly agree with improving weaknesses, you might find that your confidence will increase when you play up your strengths. For example, if you're not good at math (like me), don't be a CFO. Stick with your strengths.

5. Fake it till you make it.

If you suffer from imposter syndrome, or the untrue belief that you're not good enough, just pretend to be confident. Keep embracing the idea that you're already successful. You might not be convinced at first, but eventually your thoughts will follow your emotions and you'll become a more confident person.

6. Take action.

Fear can be paralyzing. Ignore the voice in your head telling you that you can't do something, and take action anyway. The more you let fear hold you back, the stronger the negative voice will become. It works in the other direction too: The more you take action, the quieter the negative voice will become.

7. Take pride in your appearance.

When you look good, you'll feel good. When you feel good, you feel confident. Wear the clothes you want to wear. Invest in how you look and you'll invest in your own success.

8. Focus on the positive.

Negative self-talk and pessimism are a vicious cycle, and a drain on your confidence. Focus on your positive attributes instead of perceived weaknesses; focus on your accomplishments rather than on your perceived failures. Keep focused on what is working instead of what is not working.

9. Be ready.

Success is part preparation and part opportunity. Study, practice, and do what it takes to prepare yourself for when the right opportunity knocks on your door. If you're prepared, you are more likely to have the confidence to capitalize on the opportunity.

10. Embrace the power of body language.

Body language speaks much louder than words. When you're feeling down on yourself, change your posture: Pull your shoulders back, hold your head high, stand with your feet wide and put your hands in the air like a superhero. Notice how the new stance quickly changes your mood and boosts your confidence.

Final word.

There is no magic solution that will suddenly make you a more confident person. But when you focus on making consistent and small steps, you can transform yourself from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset. Building confidence is like building momentum: Just keep taking action and you'll feel more and more confident with each positive step.

今夜猪寂寞

身为女人最大的特征就是每个月的生理期。

一个月共四周，生理期大致上也可算为28天。

从月经来到的第一天算起到第七天，就是月经期。

月经结束后，就进入月经周期的第二周，是濾泡期；卵巢在这个时候会预备排卵。

排卵之後，月經週期的第三週開始，也就是黃體前期。

下個月經要來的前一週，月經週期的第四週開始，就是黃體期。

而这每一个阶段都受到荷尔蒙分泌的影响。

所以请不要再说女人难以捉模，情绪起伏不定，统统都是生理结构本如此啊。

循着这样的周期算，莫怪猪到了一段时间都有特别的需要。

每天早上也都会花心思的画眉穿衣打扮一下，又特别爱看帅帅。

还有到了夜深人静时，都会感觉到猪今晚特别寂寞。

这一切都不能怪猪，都是荷尔蒙的作祟。

猪带着女人的身体过了这么些年，现在才懂，也太迟了吧？

可是迟懂还是好过永远不懂吧？

忘了

人，很奇怪。

才在去年讲过的话，今年就都忘光光了。

曾经大方的说：“给你。“

今年就来对你说：“那是我的，还给我。”

不，他不是得了老年痴呆症的老人；他正当壮年。

难怪有话说：“口说无凭。”

都得白纸黑字的写下来，等跟你讨东西时，你可以锵锵锵，摆出来。

哪！怎样？

所以时代变迁，还是当今吃香的职业。

什么都需要找律师做字，方才算数。

大小眼

闽南话说：大小眼，意思是偏心。

猪爸穷，所以猪也穷；这话在猪45岁时应该倒着讲吧，猪穷，所以猪爸也穷。

猪爸小猪公司的经理一岁。

猪爸没有钱，但猪的经理却很有钱；猪爸念书少，猪的经理却是读书的人，所以做了经理。

猪爸和猪经理同样在本市一银行开了来往户口。

这种户口不像储蓄户口通常都有一本小簿子记录了一切交易来往项目。

来往户口都是靠银行的对帐单才知道自己的银行存款余额。

可是时代变迁，到了现在所谓的E世代，银行再也没有在月尾像从前的传统做法那样，邮寄银行对帐单给顾客。

所以猪爸和猪经理，这两个人就向银行讨银行对帐单。

猪爸和猪经理都是上个世纪的人，对电脑智慧手机似懂不懂的，所以也没有电邮微信脸书等帐号。

猪爸一到银行就要拿号码，慢慢等。

终于等轮到猪爸了，银行职员解释，现在是电子时代，银行跟上时代，要银行打印对帐单就需付费；若不要就得申请电子服务，自己查询。

猪爸一生都做蓝领，从来没有摸过电脑，怎么查呢。

猪经理因为有大笔存款在银行户口，就受到特别待遇。

银行经理亲自出来领猪经理到会客室，一边喝咖啡，一边谈。

银行经理还特别交待以后打一通电话，一定送上所有需要文件，而且是免费的。

什么是大小眼？就是这样。

猪爸斤両不足，所受待遇是截然不同的。

虽然猪爸和猪经理看起来身高体重都差不多。

但银行户口少了一粒零，那差别就很大了。

猪因为穷什么都不能做，因为金钱才是权力（Money is power）。

猪纳闷之余只能像腥腥那样扪胸无语问苍天。

The Best Way to Feel Younger: 1 Exercise That Will Change Your Body Most, According to Science

One type of workout can make the biggest difference, especially as you get older.

By Jeff Haden

Contributing editor, Inc.@jeff_haden

 

Getting old sucks.
My joints creak. Both of my shoulders make wonderful little popping noises. I do this groaning thing when try to roll out of bed that I never thought I'd make. (In fact, most of the time I don't even notice I'm doing it.) If I lie on the floor for a while, getting back up is no longer automatic; it's a process. Things are happening to my body, both outside and inside.
Yay.
Fortunately, some of what's happening on the inside can be mitigated or even reversed--even though, as with most worthwhile results, doing so isn't easy. (Seriously: Is anything worthwhile ever easy to accomplish?)
Researchers conducted an experiment on men and women divided into two groups: Half were below 30 years old, the other half over 64 years old. (The study is titled "Enhanced Protein Translation Underlies Improved Metabolic and Physical Adaptations to Different Exercise Training Modes in Young and Old Humans," proving yet again that research paper titling is where fun goes to die.)
Everyone involved in the study was healthy but basically sedentary. Participants were then given different exercise regimens to follow for 12 weeks.
One group did not exercise. Another group alternated riding stationary bikes for 30 minutes at a moderate pace on some days, lifting light weights on others. The third group lifted heavy, and the fourth group did strenuous interval training on a stationary bike: They pedaled hard for four minutes, rested for three minutes, then repeated the cycle for a total of four intervals.
What happened? The control group, as control groups are wont to do, did not improve. (Proving that you should never sign up to be in the control group.) Everyone else made improvements in overall fitness.
That's no surprise: Good things happen when we exercise. The participants who lifted weights showed an increase in strength and muscle mass. (People who lifted heavy showed a greater increase than those who lifted light.) The participants who rode stationary bikes showed an improvement in cardiovascular fitness. (Those who did intervals showed a much greater increase in endurance, for good reason.)
You knew all that, but here's what you might not know. As we age, our muscle cells deteriorate. They don't regenerate as easily as when we're young, plus we lose mitochondria, which is where our energy comes from. To make it worse, the mitochondria that do remain get weaker.
Another yay.
But here's the good news: Researchers biopsied the participants' muscle cells and found that while the under-30 group that did interval training experienced changed activity levels in 274 genes, those in the plus-64 group experienced changes in activity among nearly 400 genes. (Other forms of exercise weren't nearly as effective; both the weight lifting group and the light cardio group experienced fractional changes.)
In non-science terms, the group who did interval training experienced changes that increased both the amount and the health of their mitochondria--especially the people in the older age group.
Or, as the lead researcher said, "It seems as if the decline in the cellular health of muscles associated with aging was 'corrected' with exercise, especially if it was intense. In fact, older people's cells responded more robustly to intense exercise than the cells of the young."
So what does all that mean?

• No matter what your age, any form of exercise is good for you.
• If you want to get stronger and improve muscle tone, lift weights.
• If you want to turn back the clock, at least at a cellular level, do interval training two or three times a week. (Some interval workouts can be completed in 10 minutes or less.)

That means, of course, that you can't just spin lightly on an exercise bike. You can't just breeze along on the elliptical. You can't just knock out twelve reps of dumbbell bicep curls with a five-pound weight while you check your email with your free hand.
You have to go hard.
Yes, it will hurt. It's supposed to. But "pain" is relative. If you haven't been exercising at all, mixing in a few 30-second jogging intervals during a 20-minute walk will hurt--and will help you get in better shape so that down the road you'll be able to do even more.
If you haven't been exercising at all, doing four sets of 15 burpees will hurt--and will help get you in better shape so that down the road you'll be able to do even more.
That's the cool thing about working out. Improving you is all that matters. Start from where you are, and work on improving that. Improvement, any improvement, is success.
You don't have to become a Chris Froome or Brooke Ence or Phil Heath. Your only goal is to be a better you.
And keep in mind that interval training doesn't have to involve stopwatches and rigid formulas. If you're riding a bike outside, choose a hilly route and work hard on the climbs. If you're jogging, mix in a series of 30- or 40-second intervals at a three-quarter sprint pace. Count the elapsed time in your head. (If nothing else, counting to yourself may help distract you from the effort.) If you're at the gym, try a HIIT workout. (Here are two options.)
The goal is to go well beyond what feels comfortable. Your muscles need to burn. Your lungs need to burn. If it's not hard--really hard--then you're not doing intervals.
And if that kind of effort doesn't sound fun, think of it this way. In every other aspect of your life, you try to optimize the outcome; you try to be as efficient and effective as you can with your time. Shouldn't you take the same approach when you work out?
Why not spend that 30 minutes at the gym ensuring that you get the most you can out of it? Why not spend that hour on the bike ensuring you get the most you can out of it? If you're going to do it, shouldn't you get the most out of it that you possibly can?
If you're like me, and getting out of bed involves a few sounds you never thought you'd make, mix in some interval training. Age has its way with all of us, but we can definitely slow down the process.
Science says so.

 

 

蓝色的猪

猪今天早上特地穿了一件红上衣。

可是今天猪还是很蓝色，因为今天是星期一。

做无头苍蝇忙了一个上午，整个下午却有气无力的非常渴睡。

生活由无尽的琐事组成，而猪为了对付生活琐事焦头烂脑。

其实谁不是呢？

因为吃饱了的肚子，一下子又会饿了。

刚洗过澡的身体，一下子又会出味道。

每件事不断的重复着。

做着做着，就这样的老了。

男人女人

男人和女人尽管再独立，仍然离不开彼此。

男人需要女人，女人也需要男人。

因为人被造，构成本是这样；造物主造了亚当后，又造了女人。

这是猪女单身这样久，最大的感慨。

不管猪怎样学习独立，总有时候特别希望身边有个男人。

猪不说制造生命这样伟大的工程，猪只说生活里的细节小事。

大多数女人都有方向盲，害怕速度。

所以驾驶一直是女人心中的痛。

女人最渴望在车上的位置是坐在开车人的旁边，而非是手捉驾驶盘的那个。

即便那辆车是价值连城的豪华车。

女人不爱驾驶，无关价钱。

近来时常下雨，有关当局有大力重建新道路，所以仍在建设中的路况，惨不忍睹。

每天下班，猪都要绕道弃仍在建设中路况满是大洞小洞的直路，而走弯弯曲曲较长的小路。

然后到了有一点小山坡的T路口，猪都要心里默祷。

那左右边来来往往穿越不停的车龙，简直会让猪捉狂；特别是后面也有车在排队时。

很多时候猪都会驾车驾到流泪。

什么时候猪的生活也有一个人管接管送的呢？

还有泊车时，太窄太小的位，猪都泊不进；又得把车停泊在七远八远较宽大及旁边较少车的泊车位。

然后再走很长的路才能抵达目的地。

所以猪都不穿高跟鞋，因为猪虽然开车，随时都得走很远的路。

虽然专家都建议大家尽量把车辆泊在较远的泊车位，然后多走一点路运动，以防三高。

可是阿，走在大风大雨大太阳下真的是酷刑阿。

现代人离不开车辆代步，很多地方连基本的公共交通都没有。

在还没有等到那个可以为猪捉驾驶盘的那双手的当儿，猪只能硬着头皮，咬紧牙根，两手紧捉驾驶盘上路。

太委屈

一个人生活，不容易。

一个人承担生活的起起起伏伏。

猪只觉得太委屈。

很多逼不得已的事，猪都得咬牙的去做。

真的太委屈，渴望一个肩膀，一个怀抱，靠一靠，抱一抱。

取暖，充电下，再从新生活。

一个人的办公室

昨天下午，一个相识但不深交的人O上来办公室找猪。

恰逢那天只有猪一个人。

办完事后，O问猪：“一个人在办公室有锁门吗？”

猪说：“没有。”

O说他出于关心，建议猪一个人在办公室时，一定要锁上门，以防万一。

感情世界如沙哈拉沙漠以及极至缺爱的猪，顿时感觉温暖起来。

猪下一个动作就是想投入O的怀抱，可理智还是告诉猪不可以。

是多久了猪没有人关怀过。

一个人的办公室，确实也令人害怕。

可是猪却也奈何阿！

猪只庆幸自己还有一分工作，和稳定的收入；即便不多，都好过没有。

猪没有本事能力出去闯，只得继续留下来。

10 Verbal Skills of the Most Likable People

Being likable requires more than just knowing what to say.

By Andrew Thomas

Founder, Skybell Video Doorbell@apthomas

 

Remarkable entrepreneurs and leaders know that emotional intelligence and being a likable person contribute immensely to their success. It's no surprise when you consider that hiring key employees, managing teams and landing big deals all boils down to building trust and making meaningful connections with others. The centerpiece of this process is communication. You simply can't afford to be a bad conversationalist.
This has been true in my own life. I had a hard time connecting with others in my mid-twenties. My introverted disposition didn't help either. After learning the secrets of effective conversation, I was able to quickly connect with people and build the meaningful relationships needed for success.
Here are 10 powerful skills that will help you become a master of conversation.

Bite your tongue

No one likes being interrupted. It is disrespectful and makes people feel unimportant and defensive. When I stopped interrupting others, I found they were less inclined to interrupt me. Try biting your tongue (gently) and then waiting three seconds to make sure the other person is finished speaking.

Let others do most of the talking

Though you may actually be saying very little, when you ask good questions and practice active listening, you still establish strong connections. I try to remember this quote from Benjamin Disraeli: "Talk to people about themselves and they will listen for hours."
This is an especially good skill for introverts, who often feel pressured to speak, but can be even more effective when they default to their natural inclination to listen.

Ask good questions

Highly successful people ask thoughtful, intentional questions--an act which shows genuine interest in the other person.
Ask people about their life goals and passions or simply why they are at an event. Deepen your conversation by using open-ended "why" and "how" questions that can't be answered with a basic "yes" or "no."

Be easygoing

It's natural to want to express your opinions and oppositions. Sometimes, though, it's okay to just nod your head and smile. You can allow for disagreement and even for mistakes. You will win others' trust by being amenable.

Go beyond a person's occupation

No one wants to be known solely for what they do. Meet the person behind the occupation by asking others about their life goals, passions and hobbies instead of their businesses and careers. You'll form a deeper connection when you meet them as a person, not an occupation.

Don't speak badly of others

If you speak badly of others, everyone else might assume you will also speak badly of them. Instead, be complimentary and positive; be the type of person that people want to be around. This applies to speaking about your competitors as well.

Offer sincere praise

People can spot flattery when they hear it, and it makes them suspicious. Yet when praise is sincere, it uplifts the other person and makes them feel good. Look for accomplishments, traits or characteristics that you value in your conversation partner and share it with them.

Be polite

Don't forget about the manners you learned as a child. Saying "Please" and "thank you" go a long way in making someone feel appreciated and showing respect. Good manners also make you more likable and trustworthy.

Avoid discussing sensitive subjects

What's true for family gatherings is true for networking--avoid politics, religion, off-color jokes and sensitive issues. When your goal is to build connections and establish rapport, it's best to avoid conflict altogether.

Know how to end a conversation

No one likes a conversation that ends in awkward silence. When a conversation is winding down (or you need to move on) tell others that you sincerely enjoyed meeting them and you're off to say hello to someone else or use the restroom. Be sure to leave with a smile.
The common element of these essential skills is respect. There isn't a more universal, effective mantra for building real relationships and powerful networks than treating others as you'd like to be treated. Great conversation is built on respect, not tactics. Practice these skills and you'll communicate in a way that garners trust and attracts success.